When I found out I was pregnant with my son, I started to think about the things I’d have to tell him and teach him that I wouldn’t if I were having a daughter. I thought about gender stereotypes and how we’d eventually need to talk about consent. I thought about a lot of things, but it wasn’t until this past week that it occurred to me that there a lot of things I hadn’t and haven’t thought about telling my son. These are things that hadn’t occurred to me because we are white. The list includes what to say if he were stopped by the police and how to feel when he encounters racism. The thought took my breath away.